{"id":1423,"date":"2015-12-01T16:03:51","date_gmt":"2015-12-01T23:03:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/thebrainfairy.com\/?p=1423"},"modified":"2016-10-19T14:37:06","modified_gmt":"2016-10-19T20:37:06","slug":"more-is-not-better-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thebrainfairy.com\/?p=1423","title":{"rendered":"More Is not Better!"},"content":{"rendered":"

by Linda W. Arms<\/em><\/p>\n

I thought I’d shared this post again since we’re in the beginning of the holiday season. This is the time where there is SO much of everything which is often\u00a0very taxing for a person with a brain injury.<\/p>\n

Post Dated Sept. 15, 2013<\/em><\/p>\n

After a brain injury, more of many things, is not better.\u00a0\u00a0 It is not better to see more things around you;\u00a0\u00a0 it is not better to be given more choices; it is not better to have more things to do; and it is not better if someone tries to explain something to you in multiple ways so you can get what it is they are trying to tell you.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 After my brain injury I definitely want less of most things.\u00a0\u00a0 I can do so much these days but I have definitely lost my edge.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Some of you have lost even more, so I expect you don\u2019t enjoy more of everything either.<\/p>\n

For most aspects of our lives, it is better to simplify and remove the multiples of things we don\u2019t need.\u00a0\u00a0 This could mean simplifying things around the house by removing the clutter.\u00a0\u00a0 Remove things that you rarely use from your closets, cabinets, shelves and drawers.\u00a0\u00a0 Having to look at so many things requires your brain to work harder.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0Make it easier on yourself by relocating things you rarely use.<\/p>\n

Having too many choices is overwhelming.\u00a0\u00a0 If somebody told me you can do A, or B, or C, or maybe D; it just made my head spin.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I couldn\u2019t and didn\u2019t want to think about each possibility and make a decision as to which option I preferred.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0It felt like torture.<\/p>\n

Having many commitments of your time and energy is also too much for many of us with a brain injury.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Just knowing that I have many things on my \u201cto-do\u201d list is often overwhelming for me and causes the brain fog to set in.\u00a0\u00a0 I can only focus on a few things at a time.\u00a0\u00a0 I have a big to-do list but I pick just a few items to put on a daily\/weekly list.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I don\u2019t look at the big list on a daily basis.\u00a0\u00a0 It\u2019s more like once every week or two.<\/p>\n

Words \u2013 too many words \u2013 can be so fatiguing.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Sometimes people feel they need to keep talking to us to explain things over and over and in different ways so we understand.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 For me, I just want simplicity and a slower speed when people speak to me.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I sometimes feel I\u2019m drowning in the words that are coming at me, causing fatigue and frustration.\u00a0\u00a0 I have had various people speaking to me who were much too talkative and they are close to me so they know my problem. \u00a0\u00a0\u00a0They speak way too fast, using too many words making it so uncomfortable for me that I now refer to it as \u201cbrain rape\u201d.<\/p>\n

Of course, there are things I want more of, like chocolate, but overall I want to enjoy life at a slower pace, with less noise; less clutter;\u00a0 less electrically produced light;\u00a0 less fast, complex talking; less crowds; less movement around me; less choices and so on.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I expect that as time goes on, I\u2019ll be able to handle more of things.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 During the last 7 \u00bd years, I\u2019ve slowly increased my abilities to handle more.\u00a0\u00a0 It just keeps getting better.<\/p>\n

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